Single Motherhood

The love a mother has for her child knows no bounds.

Many of those who know me well are aware of the fact that I'm a single mother and I'm proud of it. Many young girls get pregnant and decide to rush into marriage. Most of them do this to avoid having a child out of wedlock and because of 'shame' so to call it. And what's the whole point of the whole marriage charade? You run into something  and end up running out. You get into a marriage that has no tomorrow. You stay in a marriage full of misery ,sorrow and so on. In some case a separation or divorce comes up at the end of the day you begin to regret all over again and just ask yourself what was the whole point? Just stop to think and digest the whole thing. In the end you have just escalated the whole situation. I have no intentions of living in misery. Whatever happens in life happens for a reason. Whether positive or negative we need to learn to carry our cross and in faith that whatever hardship it is all temporary. As a mother the number one priority is to make sure your child grows in the best way possible. Hence what comes to mind is making sure he also grows with his father. In cases where situations are just unnecessarily complicated or pointless to fight over you move ahead and do all in your power to take care of the child. Sticking  to something or forcefully moving into a marriage is far from the answer. Many circumstances happen and are difficult to change. We live in an environment where if you have a child and your not in your husband's house you are looked at like an outcast. We get into many difficult circumstances not because we choose them for ourselves or anything it's just life. Be careful not to rush into something to cover shame or what people say. No one should define our lives. We define our lives ourselves. I am defining my life and yes I am proud of how far I've  reached. The best we can do is listen to enriching advice from best wishers.
There's nothing as great as having supportive parents who will always have your back. Supportive friends who show love and care always. And ofcourse this is not the end a time will still come when I will say 'yes I do' . All the best to all the single moms in the world.
Cheers

My son Kentigern and I.

Mana's story

Mana a 27year old graduate of UNILAG, a veery ambitious and hardworking lady worked in a construction company as an assistant supervisor. She had everything going on well with her up until she met Peter.
Peter a very well established 37 year old entrepreneur, was one of the richest entrepreneurs in Ikeja.
On one  faithful Monday evening Peter and Mana met accidentally in the Ikeja traffic. They exchanged pleasantries. And an affair started off very quickly. They sent each other a lot of sweet  messages and even gifts. Two months later it got very serious and  intense. They visited each others homes very often. They even took turns to host  each other.
This went on for 2years. Within the 2 years Mana had 6 abortions. They agreed to have kids after marriage . Sadly for Mana she was getting anxious each day just to hear the strong words 'Will you marry me'?
Peter was a happily married man with two sets of twins. How did she find out this? It  was her turn to host Peter at her place but she fell suddenly Ill. Hence Peter had to rush out to get  dinner and drugs for her. Mana decided to go through Peter's chats and saw a chat with his wife. The long and short was that  Peter's wife complained that Peter hardly sleeps at home and that the kids are too young not to have their father around them. But he gave many excuses that work kept him away from home most of the time.
Two hours later Peter brought dinner and drugs for Mana. Immediately he got in Mana slapped and spat at his face. She was so furious. At 27 she needed to start her life not destroy a home. She confronted him and his excuse was that the relationship they were having escalated too fast and he did not want to cut it off. So he went on with the flow. He got  a new apartment and furnished it. And decided to start a fake life with her but had no plans to marry her.
After Mana listened to the whole explanation she asked him to leave and decided it was best for her to end her life right there and then.............